Every time I share a tip about jumping into a conversation on TikTok, it gets a good response.
The video above, on how to stop a story, hit 105k views.
Last week’s poll showed the same interest.
Whether I’m training someone to be on camera, on a panel, or executive coaching for a specific challenge, I see the same struggle.
We’re all trying to balance being polite with protecting our time.
Here’s what you have to understand: jumping in is a form of leadership.
When you do it well, it doesn’t feel disruptive. It feels helpful.
This week, I’ll show you how to do it in a way that keeps the conversation moving without breaking the connection.
We’ll focus on:
Understanding Flow
3 Step Method to Jumping In Jump here ↓
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Understanding Flow
In a training session, I often use this analogy: a good conversation should feel like a wavelength.
There’s a natural back and forth, or flow, that mimics these peaks and valleys.
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The balance you see above matters more than you may realize.
Studies on conversation dynamics show that in casual conversations, people feel more connected when they speak roughly the same amount as the other person.
Good flow = higher trust, stronger rapport and conversations people actually want to stay in.
But flow is also where people get stuck!
I hear this question all the time:
What if I’m doing this… but the other person isn’t?
The answer? That’s your moment to jump in and start guiding.
If this is making you think about how you speak in a conversation, share it with someone you talk to every week. Good conversations spread!
3 Step Method to Jumping In
As I said earlier, jumping in is a form of leadership.
Instead of thinking about it as rude, think about it as shaping where the conversation goes next.
And it applies everywhere: in meetings, at dinner, or in small talk.
Step 1: Find Your Opening
You don’t need a perfect pause. You need a moment of space.
Look for:
A brief pause
The topic starting to shift
A way to build on what was said
Step 2: Follow a Framework
To reduce any friction, I want to give you three ways to jump in:
Asking Permission signals respect.
Pivoting keeps the conversation moving forward.
Showing Curiosity opens the door for others.
These approaches make your interruption feel collaborative instead of disruptive.
Step 3: Sample Scripts
Permission
“Can I jump in for a second on that?”
“Can I add something really quick?”
Pivot
“That actually reminds me of something related…”
“Okay, this is slightly different topic, but it connects…”
Curiosity
“I’m curious, what made you think that?”
“Wait, how did it all end?”
Weekly Laugh
If communication is something you want to get better at, I work with leaders and teams.
Whether it’s on camera, presentations, or everyday conversations, we can build this into how you show up. Reach out at [email protected].
And if you’ve ever waited just a second too long to jump in… this one will feel familiar 👇
